You say you want to write more. You dream of being published. Then you go about your daily routine and your writing gets put on hold. Sound familiar?
If you wanna write, you need to be open to changing something in your life so you can find the time or place or even the energy to write. Most of us get into our daily ruts and to justify those ruts, we call them “comfort zones.” Then we resist doing anything new or different.
We all, including me, prefer some predictability and steadiness in life over chaos and surprise. But somewhere in the middle, change occurs in our careers, in our relationships, in our health, in where we live–in life. You’ve heard that writers are observers of life. Well, if life involves change, why not stop resisting or lamenting change? Put on your big writer pants and go to work writing, maybe even writing about change!
Joseph Campbell said, “We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” In order to have the life that is waiting for us, we need to embrace change. Here are five tips to help you manage change so you can keep your promise to yourself to write.
- Focus on things you can control. There are many demands on your time, for example, but you have some control over which demands you accept and which you say no to.
- Monitor your thoughts. Pay attention to the ideas that pop into your head and capture them before they get away. If you don’t, when you finally sit down to write, those ideas will be gone.
- Be open to learning from change. When something unexpected happens, you not only have frustration or surprise, you have opportunity–opportunity to examine the change and look for the lesson you can take away from the experience.
- Stop resisting change. Try going with the flow and see if life gets better (if not easier) when you let things evolve and you stop forcing outcomes.
- Take care of yourself. Change often brings stress. Stress can create all sorts of issues for you–lack of sleep, overindulgence in alcohol, negative thinking, anger, etc. If you won’t take care of yourself for you, take care of yourself for those who love you, for your readers, for your writing (because only you can and will write what you write).
Change in life is a given. You can either fear it and make yourself sick with worry, or you can accept change as a natural part of living and develop your coping skills to handle change. I hope you do the latter. Happy writing!